TRP Foundational Principles
- Each of us can learn to stay positive, productive and effective, no matter what the circumstances.
- We may be unable to control our circumstances, but we can control how we handle them.
- Each of us is—or can learn to be—in charge of our moods, attitudes, emotions and behaviors, without blaming others for them.
- Everything that happens to us is an Opportunity For Learning And Growth—an “O-FLAG.”
- We can learn to deal with the “victim mentality” in ourselves and others. This recenters the “locus of control” within ourselves, and reaps profound benefits in our personal and professional lives.
- Serving others and the greater good is a key to success and fulfillment—and to uncovering greater meaning and purpose in life.
- We help others to mature and become more responsible—to grow—by not rescuing or enabling any of their victim thoughts, attitudes or behaviors.
- We get back from life whatever we put into it: good or ill. What goes around comes around.
- “Character” and “Values” are the basis for any successful life and corporate endeavor. Character can be consciously developed (and our values made preeminent).
Practicing these values shifts the culture of an organization (or family) from blame and criticism to respect, acceptance of responsibility, personal fulfillment and increased success. In short, TRP® helps organizations and families thrive—even in the midst of change or adversity.
TRP just makes life easier—for myself AND everyone around me!
Based on Solid Research
TRP® Training is solidly grounded in four research-based disciplines:
1. Reality Therapy/Choice Theory
William Glasser, in his 1998 book, Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom, posits that people have the ability to choose how they behave and respond to the circumstances of life. Glasser based this assertion on 50 years of theory and practice in psychology and counseling.
TRP teaches that each of us continually faces moments of choice. In these moments, we can choose to recognize and release victim mentality. We can view each situation as an opportunity for learning and growth—and choose positive responses rather than negative reactions.
2. Locus of Control
Julian Rotter developed the concept of locus of control in the 1950’s. Each of us is on a continuum between the belief that the outcomes of our actions are contingent on what we do (internal control orientation) or on events outside our personal control (external control orientation). Generally, people with a more internal locus of control are psychologically healthier. Ekstrom, Goertz, Pollack and Rock (1986) conducted a national study and concluded that dropouts from high school exhibited more external focus than those who remained in school.
TRP offers us a way to increase our internal locus of control and assume more personal responsibility. We release victim mentality (external locus of control) and choose to behave as a Totally Responsible Person (internal locus of control).
3. Cognitive Therapy
Aaron Beck, M.D. first wrote about cognitive therapy in Cognitive Therapy of Depression published in 1979. Cognitive Behavior Therapy seeks to help people overcome difficulties by identifying and changing dysfunctional, irrational thinking, behavior and emotional responses.
TRP® identifies victim mentality as the most common dysfunctional mode of thought and attitude. Each of us is in victim mentality more often than we realize. Our discovery and recognition of this phenomenon is eye opening and creates the pathway for change.
4. Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman, in his 1996 book Emotional Intelligence, identified four components that contribute to emotional effectiveness: emotional awareness, emotional self-management, social awareness and relationship management. He asserts that we can learn these competencies and increase our emotional intelligence.
TRP agrees and holds that the most important of these four is the ability to manage our own emotions. Victim mentality is always accompanied by a negative emotion such as tentativeness, fear, anger and dejection. Therefore, when we learn to release victim mentality, and choose a more positive response, we have a powerful way to manage and control our emotions. As a Totally Responsible Person, we increase our emotional intelligence.